…So I wanted to say thank you for that. And I am not just thanking you for me, but I am thanking you on the behalf of all the people who have ever been through this-whether they realize it or not.
The other day I heard the saying, “expectations are just premeditated resentments”. My response was, this is true.. But what exactly are we supposed to do about it? It is part of being human to have expectations; to have dreams and to hope for them in our future. I don’t think it’s even unhealthy, or that we should be afraid of the possibility of disappointment. The worst is to live life in fear of anything. It is unpleasant and it holds us back from being our best.
If we are able to go into something with expectations, fantasize about an outcome (dream about it), face the possibility of the outcome not being what we hoped for, feel that resentment if it doesn’t work out for us, then find acceptance in the outcome, that is strength. Strength is not avoiding, but it is pushing through with grace. Of course, there’s some things that are appropriate not to go into with expectations, but some things sure as hell are worth it! So it’s good to realize this because you don’t want to risk the emotional exhaustion if it’s not a situation that’s worth going through this cycle for.
Acceptance goes beyond just accepting the situation for what it is when it doesn’t go our way. Acceptance one step further is accepting that although you didn’t get what you want, you are getting something better. You are getting an opportunity for growth, to learn about life and yourself, and to gain insight into different perspectives you never considered. One “no” leads to a million opportunities for “yes” in alternative directions. You will find your yes, and it will be the perfect yes for you. You will eventually find the yes that helps you find yourself. So don’t be afraid and realize even when you’re not getting what you are looking for, you will ultimately get something better. Heck, you may have already gotten something better. If you can’t be grateful for this now, I promise you’ll find yourself grateful down the road.
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